About two weeks ago, I got to watch my nephew for an overnight visit. After dinner, we fell into playing a game we’ve played together since he was about 3. It doesn’t have an official name so I’ll describe it in these steps:
- I pretend to be asleep.
- He jumps on me with his knees aiming for my ribs.
- He lands on me.
- I wake up startled.
- He falls off and erupts in laughter.
- Rinse and repeat about 150 times.
At one point during our game, I needed a break. I tried to distract him with random questions about his favorite color, TV show, and which uncle is coolest. He grew impatient and interrupted:
Uncle Todd! Do the honk chew!
What’s the honk chew??
It’s what you are doing with your nose. Honk-chew. Honnnk-chewwwww.
How Relationships Help Us Make The Most Out Of Life
I’m in no rush to tell my nephew that “honk-chew” is what adults call “snoring.” That knowledge will find him all on its own. The day will come when his vocabulary and physical size match that of adults. Playful games like this will then be over with for two reasons. On that night, “honk-chew” served as an important reminder to me that time is limited and I should never take it for granted.
Like so many other adults, I’m several years away from many things I enjoy. It has been six years since I enrolled in a competitive sport. The last time I snowboarded more than once in the same season may be as far back as high school (oh to be a high school junior again).
It is all too easy to lose sight of what you want in life and fall into mundane routines. The people in our lives, those we have relationships with, can either deter us from what we want in life or help remind us of what’s important.
Life tends to happen while we are making plans. But it always happens in the context of other people.
Here in lies part to he magic of couples and family counseling. Our ambitions and sacred goals can be discussed in the context of those relationships that are the most important to us. Our lives can be enriched and better fulfilled by taking advantage of space created in a counseling session for those topics.
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